tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post681361604457703761..comments2024-02-12T18:02:06.707+11:00Comments on respect. love. learning.: the Real WorldHelenahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08560926974431305982noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-80657310506517832852011-08-21T21:40:42.281+10:002011-08-21T21:40:42.281+10:00Amazing. How often do people point out the rough p...Amazing. How often do people point out the rough parts of homeschooling in the Real World? You, my dear, are divine. :)Amy Dingmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04955555538158746355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-7760617737054809532011-08-20T20:26:30.280+10:002011-08-20T20:26:30.280+10:00I saw my first fist fight in 5th grade. A boy in ...I saw my first fist fight in 5th grade. A boy in my class was teased incessantly for all the things that a boy will tease another boy about. Back then we did not call it bullying but it most surely was. The stronger boy told him he was going to beat him up after school in the park which surrounded our neighborhood and school. All the kids gathered. A punch was thrown. I almost threw up, both because I was there and because I did not stop it. I ran all the way home in tears. The victim was not hurt physically anyway. I was scarred for life. I learned more in this experience about life and the person I wanted to be than in most others I have had growing up. I don't wish it on any other 10 or 11 or 12 or 13 year old. To this day, I cannot stomach any sort of physical violence and thankfully have seen very little of it in my day to day life.<br /><br />I am so sorry you had this experience. It will shape your children but I think you will find it will reinforce the peacefulness you are seeking and their gentle nature.LJS https://www.blogger.com/profile/00557549680551581746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-65889850467682881202011-08-20T02:57:35.201+10:002011-08-20T02:57:35.201+10:00Just popping in to say "Happy Friday" my...Just popping in to say "Happy Friday" my friend. Hope you and the kids are having a fabulous day.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00487026746937164012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-61043851260314445212011-08-18T04:51:00.041+10:002011-08-18T04:51:00.041+10:00I once saw two drunk men fight - it was horrid. Th...I once saw two drunk men fight - it was horrid. The others are right - yes, you ARE experiencing The Real World, but your babies are not navigating it alone, they have calm, experienced, mama beside them.<br /><br />(If only I could fit MORE COMMAS into that sentence)Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09766716788178729762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-41466134705824613382011-08-18T00:23:02.031+10:002011-08-18T00:23:02.031+10:00Well, if they had been in school they would have s...Well, if they had been in school they would have seen kids fight. Probably often. Kids they know. Not grown men who were total strangers. It would be personal. And this luckily, wasn't! :)denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07063730445661683331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-55986646773016702912011-08-17T08:35:13.161+10:002011-08-17T08:35:13.161+10:00I think the real world is right here right now in ...I think the real world is right here right now in what we live in, whatever that means to each of us. To claim that one setting is more real than another may be irrelevant and unfair. It's impossible to say just what the "real world" is other than how it is lived by our own perspectives.<br /><br />As far as how we fare and respond in each of our own realities--well I think that difference is dependent on the support and relationships we have all around us. To me that is part of why I homeschool--for the relationship I have with my children. The real world to me is learning what we need to learn when we need to learn it, come what may :).<br /><br />thanks for another great post Helena :).MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13238426502277628056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-41737876389201870332011-08-16T20:33:17.892+10:002011-08-16T20:33:17.892+10:00The other commenters are right - there are fights ...The other commenters are right - there are fights at school. But they seem "different" to watching grown men on the street, who supposedly are grown up.<br /><br />I remember taking a group of kids (well, girls) on an excursion. As we were walking down the street to get some lunch, a man and a women had a huge domestic (except, not at home). Bad language, bad violence. The girls did not know what to do! "Miss!!!" they hissed! They stared. They had no "street smarts". I hustled them out of there. At school they would have gathered and even filmed the moment on their phones.<br /><br />The thing I noted that is different - you shared this experience with your kids. You talked about it on the way home. You would not have that opportunity if they were in the 'care' of someone else for the day.Ingihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06396226904711922049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-76489299424391517852011-08-16T13:27:02.665+10:002011-08-16T13:27:02.665+10:00Fights at school EVERY DAY, honey. And they are tr...Fights at school EVERY DAY, honey. And they are trained to stand in a circle, chanting and cheering it on. It's a prison mentality, to a sort. You know? Basically, if you're not the lowest person on the totem pole, then you have a chance at not being beaten up. It sucks.tracey.becker1@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09606831315390042198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-39852574548255113122011-08-16T10:58:18.502+10:002011-08-16T10:58:18.502+10:00I saw the most fights i've ever seen while at ...I saw the most fights i've ever seen while at school (and i worked in a bar in Scotland for 4 years, so that's saying something!)...and mostly that's because, as everyone says, school is not like real life..children are forced into close quarters with many same-age peers whom they having nothing (apart from age) in common with...not surprisingly that leads to fighting, swearing and worse....Johttp://unboundedocean.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-13537547039582056202011-08-16T10:54:41.946+10:002011-08-16T10:54:41.946+10:00Umm Helllooooo....if they were in school they woul...Umm Helllooooo....if they were in school they would probably see that nearly every day. Zak went to school for six whole days a couple of years back and he was amazed at the violence and bad language that flew around. He thought it a little funny the first couple of days but soon changed his mind when he saw it was the norm. Its pretty disgusting that adults behave in this manner and I guess no wonder that kids begin to mimic this type of behaviour. A very big shame. Hugs lovely, sorry you all had to see such ugliness. :-(karismahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02529919522651147308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-57026836244541098882011-08-16T10:41:13.114+10:002011-08-16T10:41:13.114+10:00It never ceases to amaze me when people ask how my...It never ceases to amaze me when people ask how my children will manage to live in the real world if they don't go to school. I don't know if there could be a more constructed reality than school? Except maybe one of those closed set reality tv shows...?Kimberleyhttp://www.wildecrafted.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-9366197588018193182011-08-16T09:18:40.765+10:002011-08-16T09:18:40.765+10:00Holy wow! Grown men! Yikes! I agree with Karen,...Holy wow! Grown men! Yikes! I agree with Karen, they would see worse at school. It's the world, we can't hide it, just talk about how maybe the situation could have been handled better.Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17539646468375983846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-17103862064392344782011-08-16T09:01:16.901+10:002011-08-16T09:01:16.901+10:00Echoing Karen- at school, they would see violence ...Echoing Karen- at school, they would see violence and here expletives and it can be quite frightening. The difference is that they were with you and could talk about it and work through the fear straight away rather than bottle it up and not know what to do about it.Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12824924349210440889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-85764456036903277502011-08-16T05:32:07.838+10:002011-08-16T05:32:07.838+10:00Yeah but in school they would see other kids doing...Yeah but in school they would see other kids doing the same thing..or worse. You are so right...the real world is full of all kinds of people and that is where we all live. :) We started 'school' today Helena...it was so lovely. :) [well most of it, she WILL NOT READ without a fight...sighs]Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00487026746937164012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-65028838666834139572011-08-16T01:00:18.643+10:002011-08-16T01:00:18.643+10:00I was gonna say that that's the first time I&#...I was gonna say that that's the first time I've ever heard of someone contemplating school to shelter a child! :)<br /><br />I'd be totally rattled by that. I don't think I've ever seen a fight.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06646398396834008698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-760384943386215722.post-41415606999442770182011-08-15T23:18:22.866+10:002011-08-15T23:18:22.866+10:00This post is so spot on! Indeed the Real World is ...This post is so spot on! Indeed the Real World is not the little segregation of 20 odd people the same age as you...<br /><br />Love your blog Helena :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06075216202651760441noreply@blogger.com